2012 has already ushered in significant changes in my Work-Life flow. Some of the changes feel like nearly-crippling losses, and others more like incredible gains. I’m doing my best to stay present, and to juice the experiences for welcomed opportunities to uplevel the various facets of my life.
This is some pretty heavy shit, and I’ve had to shore up my spiritual resources in efforts not to lose myself in this process. Let me let you in a bit…
Preparing for the transition of the oldest living matriarch of our family
Holding my mother’s hand as she learns to be more present in my her own life
Setting more clearly-defined boundaries around my relationship needs
Getting professional help in supporting my daughters through their academic and emotional journeys
Learning how to stay in my lane and excel in my strengths by integrating a business/brand manager into the Agency’s business model
Positioning The Agency to serve more women, mothers, and entrepreneurs by attaining additional training/certification
For me, Lifestyle Management isn’t about a complicated set of to-dos, or making the list of Top 10 Whateverthehells. It’s simply about a woman’s emotional wellness. I ask myself the same question I ask any women—client or colleague, friend or fellow passenger:
When you put your head on that pillow at night, do you feel fulfilled? In other words, does what you do with your days accurately reflect the life you deeply crave?
For some, the term “Fulfilled” feels abstract and more of a luxury than something to make a part of her daily focus. I think that’s a skewed perspective because we often mistake being productive for being fulfilled, and they are not synonymous.
A woman can have a kick-ass day at the office, and still feel bad about her life when she gets in the car to drive home.
A woman can be in a healthy, happy relationship, and still feel less-than when it comes to her professional offerings.
A woman can be a good friend, and a good woman, and still feel like a bad mother.
A woman can be at the top her career, and still feel detached from her body and her physical/emotional wellness.
Those statements are all true, and they are the WHY behind my insistence on learning, applying (in my own life), and sharing (with you) the life skills that help women like us define, design, and live in emotionally well mental spaces.
As I continue this process of self-prioritization from both internal and external perspectives, I become better equipped to define myself on my own terms, and create a network of support and skill-building for women who desire to do the same.
For me, this intention is not accomplished when I gain my 1000th client, or my first $5000 speaking gig, or my Ipanema Sand colored Range Rover—but I damn sure used to think those were my barometers for success. ).
I know better now, and I’m sharing because you need to know this too.
When I am fully aligned with my emotional wellness, I still falter, but the recovery is swift, intentional, and always guaranteed.
I am fulfilled when I experience a strong sense of harmony among all the facets of myself, including open conversations with my daughters about their emotions, needs, and concerns, an increase in ideal clients for my coaching and workshop facilitation practice, and access to my family from a resentment-free space.