Yes, this is about the incredibly unjust Mike Brown decision. It is in fact about police officer, Darren Wilson, not being indicted after murdering a young black boy in public. We are angry, and thankfully, we are inspired toward creating a different experience. I’m sharing this recording as a reminder of the importance of self-care and self-love in light of major tragedy.
Embracing the Duality of Strategy & Soulwork
You’ve read or heard my theory on the S&S Factor, right? S&S is short for Strategy & Soulwork™, a solution …
November is Your Month to Feel Good, Out Loud!
“Trust the timing of your life.” I don’t know who said that, but they were on point like a mofo! …
3 Self-Care Truths to Fuel Your Week
Your You-ness is divine, and your ability to nurture that You-ness is one that requires attention, intention, and consistency. Self-Love need not be a reaction to a pain point in your life. Choose to pay more attention to yourself and your own needs; Mondays are great for re-setting powerful intentions like these.
R is for Radical Self-Expression | The Layers of Self-Discovery Tour
You know that feeling? That feeling that whatever it is that you are, is destined to be something more than …
Post 1: The Trinity I Believe In (Incantations)
Self. Intention. Attention: That’s the Trinity I serve, and it’s the Trinity that serves me. I am a believer. And …
Post 2: 70 Lip-Biting Ways to Practice Self-Love
We all know what it’s like to feel MUTED. It’s as if we know what we want, but we’re afraid …
Post 3: 10 Ways To Heal Through Radical Self-Expression
Today only, I’m offering you 10 reasons to heal your life through Radical Self-Expression. I believe self-expression to be the …
Post 4: Finding More Messages On Self-Love & Support
If you’re a woman, If you’re a person of color, If you’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender,
if you’re a person of size, a person of intelligence, a person of integrity, then you’re considered a minority in this world.
…And it’s gonna be really hard to find messages of self-love and support anywhere.
For us to have self-esteem is truly an act of revolution, and our revolution in long overdue. -Margaret Cho
Post 5: A Simple Affirmation In Support of Self-Love
I had spent so much time fighting for myself that I’d assumed it was because I loved myself, and because I wanted to be happy and to be free. But as my battles continued, whether I won them or lost them, I grew into someone different than the one I was fighting for.
And once that version of me, the survivor, was ready to shift from survivor to Thrivist, she needed distance between herself and the feelings associated with the circumstances that had once held her captive. I needed to stop comparing my current life to my past life and release the tethers, so that I could fully embrace myself in the current moment.
Post 8: 14 Radical Acts of Self-Care
Yesterday, I talked about our perceptions of healing, and how hurting may be part of our healing process. I imagine …
Post 9: On SuperMoons & Healing Disguised as Hurt
Last night’s SuperMoon was kind of a big deal. It reminded me to share a video I did about Radical …
Post 10: 3 Things I Appreciate About How Jill Scott Managed Her Nude Photo Leak Situation
I’m sure you’ve heard by now that singer, songwriter, poet, Jill Scott, has been victimized by hackers who leaked a …
Post 11: The Public Shaming of Blackgirl Natural Hair
*Special thanks to Armani Jamieson for sending me her beautiful photos for the featured image!* I don’t know whether …
Post 12: How Our Mothers’ Choices Can Mute Us
As I matured into adulthood, I would sit quiet in conversations at work or even among my friends afraid to express myself because I might say the “wrong” thing. I was well into my 20’s before I understood that having an opinion did not mean I had to agree with everyone else — that it was ok for me to publicly say “I disagree” though I didn’t do it very often at that time. I disagreed inside.
Post 14: Redefining Our Warrior Selves
I am a warrior woman. This does not mean that I am destined to fight wars forever. Or that I …
Post 16: Another short book–but on healing broken
I’ve been working on a series of essays about the mothers, sisters, and other loved ones of Black boys like Michael Brown, John Crawford, Travyon Martin, Darius Simmons, and girls like Renisha McBride. While I heal from the inside, I feel rage for their Mamas. Women whose journeys toward healing broken may be miles in the making. Let me start with me, and then work my way toward doing what I can for them. And for us.
Post 17: A short book about feeling broken
So, if the one thing I never wanted to do was now being done, what was the point of moving on? How could I not stop and ask myself what to do next? I had to slow everything to a halt. Let myself fall. But I didn’t expect to not be able to get up. I stayed fallen. Broken actually. And I almost stopped trusting my footing. The dreams I had held on my head …
Post 18: Where Souls Go to Die
i feel value in looking past the moment these days, because should I stay (t)here—I will die. i will pack my bags, blow out my candles, roll up my mats, tie my locs back, and let my dreams die. should i stay in the moment, the bit of me that still sees the possibility of happiness will drown…
Post 19: 40 Posts About Self-Expression
ON QUITTING BECAUSE IT’S TIME I read a great interview on Tayari Jones today. In it, Eve Dunbar asked her …