3 Self-Care Truths to Fuel Your Week

Your You-ness is divine, and your ability to nurture that You-ness is one that requires attention, intention, and consistency. Self-Love need not be a reaction to a pain point in your life. Choose to pay more attention to yourself and your own needs; Mondays are great for re-setting powerful intentions like these.

Post 4: Finding More Messages On Self-Love & Support

If you’re a woman, If you’re a person of color, If you’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender,
if you’re a person of size, a person of intelligence, a person of integrity, then you’re considered a minority in this world.

…And it’s gonna be really hard to find messages of self-love and support anywhere.

For us to have self-esteem is truly an act of revolution, and our revolution in long overdue. -Margaret Cho

Post 5: A Simple Affirmation In Support of Self-Love

I had spent so much time fighting for myself that I’d assumed it was because I loved myself, and because I wanted to be happy and to be free. But as my battles continued, whether I won them or lost them, I grew into someone different than the one I was fighting for.

And once that version of me, the survivor, was ready to shift from survivor to Thrivist, she needed distance between herself and the feelings associated with the circumstances that had once held her captive. I needed to stop comparing my current life to my past life and release the tethers, so that I could fully embrace myself in the current moment.

Post 12: How Our Mothers’ Choices Can Mute Us

As I matured into adulthood, I would sit quiet in conversations at work or even among my friends afraid to express myself because I might say the “wrong” thing. I was well into my 20’s before I understood that having an opinion did not mean I had to agree with everyone else — that it was ok for me to publicly say “I disagree” though I didn’t do it very often at that time. I disagreed inside.

Post 16: Another short book–but on healing broken

I’ve been working on a series of essays about the mothers, sisters, and other loved ones of Black boys like Michael Brown, John Crawford, Travyon Martin, Darius Simmons, and girls like Renisha McBride. While I heal from the inside, I feel rage for their Mamas. Women whose journeys toward healing broken may be miles in the making. Let me start with me, and then work my way toward doing what I can for them. And for us.

Post 17: A short book about feeling broken

So, if the one thing I never wanted to do was now being done, what was the point of moving on? How could I not stop and ask myself what to do next? I had to slow everything to a halt. Let myself fall. But I didn’t expect to not be able to get up. I stayed fallen. Broken actually. And I almost stopped trusting my footing. The dreams I had held on my head …

Post 18: Where Souls Go to Die

i feel value in looking past the moment these days, because should I stay (t)here—I will die. i will pack my bags, blow out my candles, roll up my mats, tie my locs back, and let my dreams die. should i stay in the moment, the bit of me that still sees the possibility of happiness will drown…