What I love about spirituality is that it has no set rules. It’s personal, it’s wide open, and it heals us from the inside out. I’ve had far more opportunities to call on my spiritual self than I even wanted over the past year. My circle, my music, and rituals have brought me out of some pretty low depths, and I’m grateful for that. Here I share one of the rituals that help me remember myself. Can’t see the video below? Watch it on Youtube. It’s super simple and for me, incredibly effective. Feel it out for yourself and see.
• Permission to speak freely
• Listening and looking with compassionate detachment
• Releasing the words from your environment
You’ll need your phone or an iPad (or your computer if you have programs that can capture video recordings).
Set your timer for 5 minutes.
Record your thoughts in a moment. Listen to them. Or do a video recording from your phone.
Record as much or as little as you want, just stop when the timer goes off. If you’re done recording before the timer stops, don’t listen to the recording, just sit in silence, thinking about anything you want (even the issue at hand) until the timer stops.
When the timer stops. Take a moment to take three deep belly breaths. Belly breaths meaning you fill your belly with air when you breathe in, and push the air out of your stomach when you breathe out, remember?
At the end of the third breath, set your timer for 5 minutes.
Now, play back the recording you created during the first five minutes. Just watch or listen. Don’t try to solve anything by watching or listening. Just be there for yourself. Listen to the tone of your voice. Listen out for worry or fear or any subtle things about your voice or your body language (if you did a video recording).
Check in with yourself to see how you feel about what you are observing. Use compassionate detachment, which means you can honor something without taking it in and assigning your emotions to it. Listen, repeatedly, if necessary, for the entire 5 minutes.
When the timer goes off, stop listening or watching.
It is okay for that message to experience an abrupt stop. Even if the message wasn’t finished playing, stop right there.
Take 3 more deep belly breaths, meaning you fill your belly with air when you breathe in, and push the air out of your stomach when you breathe out.
Set your timer for timer for 4 minutes.
Now, delete the recording you created during the first five minutes.
When you press delete, allow yourself to release any attachment to whatever you recorded. Remind yourself that you have just expressed your thoughts, and are now free to move forward without the pressure of suppressed thoughts or feelings in this moment.
My intention with this lecture was to invite you to be grateful for this moment, and take full advantage of a freshly deleted sore spot in that moment. Feel through your feelings, breathe through your nostrils and into your belly. Just be there for yourself.